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Oifae Over the years, I’ve found, to understand how to win the fear war, it is helpful to try to understand how our mind functions.
Full-disclosure, let’s be clear from the get-go, I’m not a cognitive researcher, psychiatrist or expert on this topic. However, let me share a few thoughts I’ve learned along the way. You decide for yourself if they have merit. Fair enough?
Unless you’re a meditation guru or dead, your mind is functioning at full speed most, if not all, of the time. In fact, while awake, it is in a constant state of endless activity. Answers.com claims we have 70,000 thoughts per day. I’m exhausted just thinking about it. Oh, there’s another thought.
Your subconscious mind is doing some important stuff while you sleep as well, like ensuring that you continue to breathe. Ya gotta love that.
Also, from my studies, although many of you might shout “NOT ME,” I am convinced that each of us has an imagination and a creative genius without limit.
And, to deepen that opinion, our minds are not controllable by any outside force. So, when you hear yourself telling your loved ones “you make me so mad,” that isn’t true. You make yourself mad, not them. You choose to be mad, just like you choose to be customized your own brand real mink lashes .
And if you constantly tell yourself you are not creative or imaginative, you also program yourself to not be creative or to not use your imagination. It becomes your very own personal cycle of doom.
Viktor Frankl, an Austrian Jewish Psychiatrist who, as a prisoner, lived and worked in concentration camps such as Auschwitz, brought this concept full-force to me years ago while reading Man’s Search For Meaning.
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“Everything can be taken from man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances… to choose one’s own way.”
Ponder that quote again. Do you believe it?
Frankl’s enlightening body of work, including the above quote, has served me well over the years.
It is especially important to keep in mind when things are not going in the direction you would like them to be going.
In the camp, Frankl found that day-to-day, hour-to-hour, his fellow prisoners decided how to respond to their circumstances. From his perspective, those who lived seemed to somehow take more responsibility for themselves.
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I’ve also learned, even though it sometimes doesn’t seem like it, our minds focus on one thought at a time. Yes, even when you’re multi-tasking. (That’s a completely different topic for another day.)
Each thought we have is like an actor on a stage. Many of these actors star as an “I can” or an “I can’t.” They give instructions to your subconscious to “awesomeize or “awfulize.” The key is to constantly focus (or refocus) on that positive governing thought (your desire).
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